Wednesday, 17 May 2017

The Blame Game - Wednesday 5/17

Having diabetes often makes a visit to the doctor a dreaded experience, as there is invariably bad news of one kind or another.  And sometimes the way the doctor talks to you can leave you feeling like you’re at fault.  Or maybe you have a fantastic healthcare team, but have experienced blame and judgement from someone else in your life – friend, loved one, complete stranger.  Think about a particularly bad instance, how that person talked to you, the words they used and the conversation you had.  Now, the game part.  Let’s turn this around.  If you could turn that person into a puppet, what would you have them say that would leave you feeling empowered and good about yourself?   Let’s help teach peoiupe how to support us, rather than blame us!  (Thank you, Brian, for inspiring this topic.)

The Blane Game - interesting topic for me! I think I'll try and approach this logically, or at least as logically as I can! 

I'm very lucky, my diabetic healthcare team are AMAZING! I cannot praise them enough, they're supportive, helpful, non judgmental. Good at listening and advising. However when I need to visit the GP I often feel like they're inwardly rolling their eyes. Sighing because I'm back again. Almost always I hear that old line "well you're diabetic, your more susceptible to these things" erm no I disagree it's probably not the fault of my condition but hey let's go with it because you can't look beyond it. 

I'd love one day for them to say yes yes I see and look exactly at the problem rather than what they can blame upfront!!

Friends, yes been abandoned by some of them to unfortunately. I've had the friends of friends who've complained because I've tested my blood at the table or because they think my pump is dirty. It annoys me because the ignorance of people causes so much hurt. Wouldn't it be easier to say oh, wow does it hurt? How often do you have to do it? Etc! 

Haha I've also had the well you've been off sick again, what can you do to help yourself? This year I've had influenza H at least twice likely three times. The second and third time I lost my voice and felt dreadful. Bloods bounced around like a roller coaster and some days I barely made it off the sofa. I was honest and up front about it. Why I've no idea as I still got the same treatment as if I'd bunked off. I'd much rather have been in work than in bed feeling like I'd been hit by a truck. But instead of the whole oh so it's just unfortunate that you've had this recurring illness, are you feeling better? What's the after impacts going to be if any? What would help you now? I got smacked with a nice big warning. 

Random strangers yep done them to! They stare and then complain that they don't like what they're seeing, here's a suggestion - STOP LOOKING!! 

I sound like a right moaner tonight but the truth is I'm happy to educate, happy to help but it's part of me and that's life. 

One thing that does make me feel positive is that for my little boy my pump and bm kit are normal, it's part of everyday life. He's no fear of any of it. 


  1. A friend of mine complained the other day, in my house, about people who test their blood sugar in the open especially at the table. I was stunned she said something like that. Still I was not paralyzed I stood up form the table, got my my meter returned to the table and tested.

    Yeah that nice evening was so over.

    1. I do this anywhere I here people moaning now. Good job